By continuing to use this site, you agree to our updated Terms of Service and Privacy Policy. My main response to that is you don't have to like everything, but things like dancing and listening to good music are fun for their own sake. The Guessing Game is when a man from last nightcalls you from the club and youre trying to guess from his voice whether hes really as attractive as you thought he was. 1. Last time I went to Fabric the music was still good but I realised as I was walking out that Id been robbed.. 23 (M) but I don't drink very often anymore and I no longer enjoy going clubbing. As a result they can adopt a more stuck-up persona as a kind of armor against all the guys who bother them. This is one for those of you out there who don't drink alcohol or don't enjoy going clubbing. If you have any questions, please send the mods a message. You can only take having your hopes frustrated so many times. (Is that what the kids are calling it these days?). Every weekend i felt miserable and guilty for staying at home, but i learned that i don't like it and that its FINE! Yesterday i Went Out and it was Great. Want to meet people? Learn to loosen up bro! You feel hungover after a single drink. People only really go clubbing to try to get laid. If you go out a lot, and see the same people week after week, they can sometimes be a very vapid, unhealthy group of "friends". So you can end up doing things like hanging out with guys whose company you don't totally enjoy just because you want a wingman. 38. Even when I was 18 and went to my first club I didnt feel it. I'm old enough that I don't care what they think. Heres 20 things youll know if you dont like clubbing. You are going to have to take baby steps to not only get over your trauma but to protect yourself from further problems. However, I've found that as I've gotten older, as much as I enjoy the dancing and the atmosphere at times, I generally enjoy a good house party. If you're single and feeling desperate, things like dancing, music, and being with friends can seem more pointless. Many teenagers spend money got from their parents - i know from school. The other thing to watch out for is saying you don't like something for reasons that don't really have to do with the activity itself. 24. Another thing is that if you go out with a real 'Must. This won't be any more expensive than a night out at the bar. We received 196 responses to our call out on clubbing, with the vast majority (131) agreeing that a night in was now preferable to a night out. Lots of people tell me I'm too old for that. Youre literally wearing a shirt that you wear to work to da club. Lucy, 25, from London said: Why be crammed in a sweaty club or be limited to a handful of mindless nightlife activities when I could be doing a lot more at home for less money, with greater cultural value and without the hassle of trekking out?, And even those who do enjoy a night out accept that it is at least partly because its still affordable where they live. We still have days where we just chill, have drinks, or watch a movie, then they have their days when they go clubbing. You may come to hate clubs themselves instead of just that fact that you can't meet anyone in them. Hi Folks. I don't blame them, if it's not a passion of theirs then move on. Your pillows finally stopped smelling like an ashtray at Hooters. thank you so much. I feel like I should is the most common response. I've been writing about social skills for fifteen years. When all the other windows and doors are open. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. Please stop drunk rambling at me about how much you love my dress. Its also a good time to catch up with the things I havent had time to watch or listen to in the week. 55. You no longer consider "club hopping" a legitimate form of exercise. Nobody CAN actually dance. Plus the clubs, even in the capital, are disappointing: they shut at 2am, much earlier than venues in Berlin, and just when you start enjoying yourself its lights on. You seriously question if anyone would marry you if hefound out you once hooked up with a DJ, and not the Diplo kind. You are, after all, denying who you are in this case. Yes i have medication for my anxiety but i just don't have any interest in going clubbing, i prefer to sit & have drinksi have one amazing friend and she never pressured me into anything but my other friends r a bit shitty so iv stopped hanging around with them, i don't want to hang around with people who put me in situations i don't like. Here are 60 signs youre completely over clubbing. What is the sense of getting "fucked"? Abi from Bath finds clubs totally overwhelming. Sure drinks are expensive everywhere, but maybe try pre-gaming a bit and then just buying one or two drinks. The Student Room and The Uni Guide are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd. Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. Honestly unless you are very interested in dating older women I would say there is a good chance every woman there will be at least a few years older than you. As you get to my age youll soon realize nobody gives an f about what others around them are doing, just do what makes you happy. It sounds like a freaking nightmare to me! But I still hope that some o. Don't just write off clubbing as a way to feel awkward and spend a bunch of money because if you do, you will have that experience (aka self-fulfilling prophecy). Blaynos, 26, from London said: Id rather spend my money on going to try some new food rather than going to an overpriced nightclub, and spend my down days chilling at home with mates.. I can't stand it and won't do it. Not everyone drinks, but most of the people are either drunk or at least a little buzzed. Even if they wanted to, the noise level and general craziness going on doesn't make it easy. If you are drunk, you are not able to think rationally and tend to follow your emotions. Despite staving it off throughout college, your finely-tuned gag reflexes can finally tell the difference between promoter vodka and the good stuff. But for every one of them, there are ten guys who are too nervous or awkward to talk to anyone, or there are ten women who only get hit on by pushy jerks. I Managed to loose up and give less fucks.. If you're not comfortable with it, no need to force yourself. Another reason some people don't like clubbing as much as they could is that they don't do everything they can to ensure they have a good time at them. Rather than seeing themselves as a generation stuck staring at phones and not wanting to connect in real life, most of the young people who responded said that clubs were simply not personal enough. The attitude sometimes comes across as fairly intense and bitter as well, almost like they hold a grudge against the very idea of clubbing. Clubs are a dreadful environment, you're not the only one who feels that. It also covers how to avoid awkward silence, attract amazing friends, and why you don't need an "interesting life" to make interesting conversation. Clubbing is like a McDonalds Happy Meal -- its great until you grow up and realize that its totally bad for you and the toy that lured you in the first place is pure sh*t. After years of believing that there is no other way of life beside David Guetta remixes and well vodka, youre suddenly changing your tune (and maybe a few diapers). MadameNoire is a sophisticated lifestyle publication that gives African-American women the latest in fashion trends, But it sure as hell helped. You don't like something? They don't get ticked off because they can't have an in-depth conversation in a club, because they never went in with the expectation that was possible. For a lot of people, trying to meet someone or get laid often ends in disappointment. This!!!! 13. Strangers having fun together is a blast, and it is very easy to accomplish in a club setting. 58. Was it all attributed to not drinking/clubbing? E.g. Who did these people survey and where the hell are they going out, because this just seems ridiculous. As you say, it is loud. Find a quieter public place. The point this person makes about the DJs is something that can be easily avoided as well. But alas, like Breaking Bad and Twinkies, all good things must come to an end. You refer to it as "da club." Like, what do you expect us to say? Eventually most stop going at all and will tell you they don't like clubs anymore. Otherwise down-to-earth guys put on their shiny shoes and flashy shirts. Do not soapbox or promote an agenda - you will be banned. Im also male, so I have less fear attached to things like that. You'd pick a night in on the sofa over a night out in the club any day. You've significantly scaled back on your glitter use instead embracing the "natural look.". The one's I've heard are: Don't get me wrong, tons of people go clubbing with the sole purpose of trying to hook up. Thats only if you feel like it is keeping you from doing things that YOU want to do. On track to retire at 40. Do not call people names or engage in slapfights. Here's 13 signs you're too old to go clubbing any more. I've noticed that as a group people who struggle socially have a tendency to dislike bars and nightclubs. Everybody looks good at 2am on a Saturday. Your friends will be there. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. advice and career trends - and MadameNoire provides all of that. I still go clubbing occasionally, since I have quite a few friends who are in their mid-20's. I enjoy going dancing. Hundreds of clubs have closed in recent years. You're more afraid of wearing your high heels than you are of looking really stupid in flats. The threat of the complete removal of others causes them to conform to the perceived preferences of others just so their own desire for time alone, time with few others, a quiet activity, or whatever pleases them does not leave them without the option for social contact. It is like wanting to get into a house and bemoaning the fact that one of the windows is locked. Exhaustion. The study in question did only survey 196 people, which is an incredibly small sampling. PostedApril 12, 2014 When you go out with the main goal of trying to meet someone, you also tend to put less thought into what type of bar you're going to. When people tell you to "get low," you think youre being held up. There is a reason people go to clubs in a group so they can look out for each other. in Psychology. We never thought this day would come either. Youd rather be sucking off your boyfriendthan the bouncer. 40. Because for just $75, you can lose all your friends and then spend the better part of the night finding them. To be fair, there are other reasons this happens, such as having more responsibilities and plain getting older, but plenty of people feel that clubbing just starts to get tiresome. ", 8. Fine, as long as you are not hurting someone that's OK. Its perfectly fine to ask for reassurance, chill dude. This applies to the usual activities clubbing entails. Normal, level-headed women put on their sparkly make-up and revealing tops. They plain don't care about some things that other people find aggrevating (e.g., crowded conditions, how everyone is behaving, cover charges, etc.). 53. They go to parties because they feel like they should, and then they wonder what's wrong with them such that it is not fun and exciting like it is for everyone else. (No one seems to wonder how many other people at that party feel the same way!) You much prefer your disco bowl to the disco ball. But you can now get cheap city breaks for the price of a good night out that you wont remember in London. 34. Let them do what they enjoy, just like you want to do what you enjoy. Youre just ahead of your friends. Do not bully or harass other users. Plus the clubs, even in the capital, are disappointing: they shut at 2am, much earlier than venues in Berlin, and just when you start enjoying yourself its lights on. You start talking about cab fare the minute you get there. For some people that scene is for them and they don't move on, but others eventually shift to more subdued, smaller-scale venues. I can't understand why people are trying to talk you into clubbing. Despite countless times trying to make an effort on your part and reconcile your differences (he likes hanging outside the club, you enjoy the inside), you and the club doorman will never understand each other. But once you learn about some artists and develop your tastes, then you can start to like that aspect of going to bars. Theres a time and a place to tear the club up, but one day youll walk in a party and suddenly everybody looks young, its hot, and your feet hurt. Click here to go to the free training. Youre debating ISIS, not where to go after the pregame. I dont need to worry about that on a night in., Mina, 19, from Walsall agreed: Not going to a club means youre less likely to get your drink spiked or get chatted up by creep strangers. I can't deny some club goers fit this description, but I think most of them are just like anyone else. 1. If you're a woman you may get groped, harassed, and hit on by creeps. Please make sure you read our rules here and remember to: Be polite and respect each other. It's expensive to go out all of the time. Go in there with no expectations man, and just see what the night can bring. I've noticed people who like clubbing acknowledge its flaws, but don't get as bent out of shape about them as some of us do: Clubbing has enough drawbacks that many people do it less and less as they get into their mid-twenties. 43. 2. I am also one of those people, we do exist!! Now there really was no point to going out. If you hear Pitbull one more time, you will stab someone with a cocktail stirrer. So many people 'fit in' that it becomes a normal thing. Friends dont care about my birthday shld I be annoyed? Guys only really go to bars because they want to act macho and get into fights. Yes, shes single and ready to mingle. The best option is to admit to yourself that you're an introvert, and to figure out what you need from your social contact. 50. Being able to meet and chat to strangers is another skill. clubbing sounds fun but it just isn't for everyone! One 33-year-old who was surveyed declared: Bouncers are always rude and aggressive with no cause; DJs usually play what they want not what people want to listen to; the drinks are overpriced.". Well, we're not necessarily disagreeing with what the person above has stated, but it really just sounds like they're going to the wrong clubs. This should be the top comment. It's ALWAYS okay not to like something. Youre totally normal! I have a Master of Social Work (MSW) degree, and a B.A. They can be overpriced (cover charge/drinks/coat check/VIP section, etc.). skinny and exercise every day but still not physically fit, Rejected from uni and feeling kind of down. Your friends invited you to a club. i speed dated around that age. There's also the argument that you've probably been to clubs before, and you're not a moron, so it's reasonable to assume other people are in the same boat. I also find dancing awkward. 25. The most annoying Facebook friends are the ones who . They're not only there for a hook-up and lose all interest in them as soon as they get into a relationship. 44. When all the other windows and doors are open. 31. MORE : 13 signs youre too old to go clubbing. Staying Single: What Most People Do If They Divorce After 50, A Psychological Diagnosis for People Who Lie About Everything. Sarah, 30, from Bristol said: Id much rather make a plan and meet up with friends face to face rather than sit in separate rooms and talk over social media. So why do you not want to go? Those artists definitely play the same tracks, all of them. As one person stated, "When I get to see my friends its nice to sit down and chat with them rather than getting really drunk and not knowing whats going on with them.". Do not post content that promotes hate based on identity or vulnerability. 2023 BDG Media, Inc. All rights reserved. Id rather chill in and relax from the stress of studying. So I covered the downsides. You can fall asleep anywhere AND YOU'RE NOT AFRAID TO DO IT. Dave, 19, from York said: I find even pubs to be overwhelming, so nightclubs are just awful with all the noise, sound and crowded people. 1. attitude it can cause you to lose your ability to appreciate elements of clubbing for their own sake. As you say, it is loud. I threw that time and money at investments (accounts but also education, career, networking with people that matter etc) instead. You find yourself saying things like, "I'd rather pay for a whole apartment every month than for a table." You may have to wait in line for a long time (even worse if it was all a trick, and the place is dead once you get inside). I mean, folks, come ON. Press J to jump to the feed. You tell real stories brought on by real memories -- not what you piece together from the text messages from the night before. Its much easier and more comfortable for me to talk to my friends on Skype or Facebook than to force myself into an uncomfortable and intimidating situation., Abi, 24, from Bath agreed: I find clubs totally overwhelming - I cant talk, people get lost or split off and it just generally ends up with me trying to find people rather than dancing staying in is more under my control., Sirena, 25 said that while previous generations embraced hedonism and were willing to lose three days to a big night out, the desperation to meet all our self-imposed goals makes todays young feel like a night out is an outrageous indulgence. Note that those are all negative. Going to bars and clubs is too expensive, everyones too busy worrying about whether they will ever be able to afford a mortgage or children to throw away money every week on a club., Original reporting and incisive analysis, direct from the Guardian every morning, Bouncers are always rude and aggressive with no cause, djs usually play what they want not what people want to listen to and drinks are overpriced.. I'll try to take a balanced approach of acknowledging that clubbing isn't perfect, but also sticking up for it and pointing out where I think the appeal is. 37. Women really only go clubbing for the attention they get from men. They go to parties because they feel like they should, and then they wonder what's wrong with them such that it is not . Your booty calls are confused when you text before 11 pm asking to go home together. It feels like an ever-present threat, so the introvert compromises to attain social validation and security in their relationships with others: basically, to acquire a proxy for the assurance that their company will always be desirable and that they will never be left truly alone. This cropped up a lot, particularly among younger millennials still studying for their exams. Can I go now? The sheer amount of posts I see on this website asking others if it's "okay" not to like something frustrates me to no end. Clubbing is great if you have the face that a girl is going to see across the dance floor and say "I want to get to know him better" if not, (I never did) then don't. I'm 32 and never liked the clubbing/bar scene either. Are Zoomies a Sign of a Happy Dog or a Crazy Dog? It happened to me at twenty nine. There are plenty of artists who play an eclectic mix of tracks, some of which you may never hear again for quite some time. "Netflix and chill" is a thing for a reason. In my experience bars and clubs offer plenty of reasons to go to them as well. You don't have to go out every night to enjoy clubbing. The only thing that could tip the scale towards going out clubbing is when your dislike for clubbing is weighed up against something that pleases you more than your dislike for clubbing. My logic is that most people are alright, and a good proportion of them go to bars and clubs, so if you go to a packed venue, the patrons can't all be empty-headed and irritating. In the cold light of day, its another story. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. 29. According to a new study in the UK, the youth are not as eager to go out clubbing like they used to. As such, you're more likely to end up somewhere that isn't really to your taste. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. You can sit around saying, "My girlfriend likes to party and I don't" and hoping that things will change by themselves. 54. But people there are so drunk that they don't care anymore and dance like shit. That tends to obviously make you act stupider. And your social skills won't get any better just by going out, so if you don't want to then most likely you shouldn't. You can read more responses to the survey here. Sure it costs money but what else are you going to spend your money on when you are young? I dont use Facebook any more and I think my friendships are better now I make the effort to catch-up with people properlyI love live music, and going to see bands play live is the main way to keep them in existence these days., Harriet, 26, from Manchester said: Having finished a masters recently, Im suddenly in a city where theres not a lot of people I know around, so when I get to see my friends its nice to sit down and chat with them rather than getting really drunk and not knowing whats going on with them. For example, someone may think they don't like clubbing because it's superficial and annoying, but they're also uncomfortable in that setting, and a little envious of the people who do well in that world. The challenge is to make sure we take the steps necessary to overcome these situations in a safe and fun way. This is a no-win situation: Do you stay home and wonder why you don't like what everyone else does or if you are missing something? Welcome to r/dating. Things to look for are friends who have the same basic goal in mind as you (not you want to take it easy and have a few drinks, they want to dance all night), people who won't get drunk and distracted and ditch you, and people who are generally fun company. Everyone needs a night out, but it doesnt have to be in a club, she says. That's the first way people who dislike clubbing tend to dismiss it. Because Your Party Girl Life Is Ending, The Going Out Versus Staying In Debate, Club Bed, You're Lazy and Staying In, It's Halloween. There's a time and a place to tear the club up, but one day you'll walk in a party and suddenly everybody looks young, it's hot, and your feet hurt. You finally invested in nice, new shoes and youd like to keep them that way. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. Anxiety could also be worse getting triggered by people trying to force you into situations that you arent comfortable in and thats not an issue with your anxiety, thats an issue with shitty friends. Yup. It is absolutely ok. No one should feel forced to do something they don't want to do. My question would be do speed date meet ups still happen? I think you should be proud of the fact th. Youll be surprised how many people feel the same way you do, and like you better for who you actually are. You just go wherever there seems to be a lot of cute women or hot guys. You find yourself . Im 23 and Ive never really been interested in the idea of clubbing either - Id be happy to try it once or twice and then never go again haha. Because why do we need to know how many vodka shots youve just had? Though I'm also a therapist and can offer in-depth, personalized help. I think, people only do this to forget for a while who they are - so they are not happy with their life. 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